Moms we should be talking about

Mothers Day went by and brought a lot of joys for moms across the globe. The social media exploded with posts, photos, heart warming messages and quotes, videos and loads of competitions/giveaways. There was happiness everywhere. I am a mom too, and I pondered over my life and the many moms that I know of. Deep thoughts made me realise that we don’t discuss some mothers. We are too caught up in the normalcy of life, and the struggles we see in common around us that we do not think beyond them to realise a fellow mom exists who isn’t in the same state as us.

This Mothers day I thought deeply of the moms like me, Moms who visit the courts to fight for their childs custody. I at-least have baby Abbas with me now, to feel more like a hands on mother, but what about the mothers who are struggling in our judicial system fighting in court for the best interest of their child? Dealing with an ego-centric ex-husband, not being allowed visitations! Thoughts led me to think about the moms who aren’t living the ordinary life. They don’t get a card or gift from their child, because their child passed away….Moms who are trying to make a living on their own as single parents, moms who have just separated or divorced and are trying to figure out the dynamic of their new life…moms who have child/ren with disabilities….moms who have children fighting for their life in hospitals..moms who chose to be moms and adopted children…..moms who have recently lost their moms…moms who may be battling a life threatening disease…moms who have been separated from their children due to war, moms who are unable to meet their children waiting for visitations rights….Moms who have children who have not turned out to be morally sound….Moms who are consoling daughters/sons who have been through abuse…..moms who became moms due to assault…They are all moms aren’t they?

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From my personal experience I have learned that; yes, in our country and culture moms are given much respect. But a lot of that is in words. “Maa” they say, but sometimes a mother can be another mothers worst enemy. I guess it’s only when you go through certain experiences do you recognise the honest people from the big-talkers. Everyone says moms are the most important person in the lives of children, yet we aren’t as aware of the severity of mommy struggles that surround us. Truly mothers are the strongest creatures on earth. I remember my moms prayers, whenever she used to hear the sound of speeding sports bikes in the late hours of the night, she used to say “May Allah give patience to the mothers of these boys”. I’m talking about school days, the thoughts that used to come to my mind were ‘oh cool, they’re going by like lightening…or I wish I could ride a bike that fast…..or why can’t be quieter….’ But since my mom voiced her concern as the mother, empathising with the moms of those biker boys I realised that there is such a solid perspective to this. How many times a day or month or even year do we think from the mothers perspective? How many of us have tried to think about the experience of the mother whenever her child goes through something?

I tell myself during my mommy struggles that, at-least I have faith, and the faith in God is the best. I am grateful that I am not a refugee separated from my child, I am grateful that my child hasn’t died in a shooting at school, or been killed by terrorists or extremist groups. As a mother I think it’s important to empathise, put ourselves in the shoes of other mums, even if it’s just in our thoughts and try to understand what the other moms are going through. Only a mom can understand another mom.

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This may not have been the most chirpy, candyfloss and balloons kind of a post, but important none the less. It’s extremely important for us to discuss the societal issues, and value EVERY mom, and think about the not-so-common struggles of a mother, and if not be able to help, be grateful that we aren’t facing them 🙂

I request prayers from everyone for my pending custody case, hope to get my daughter back soon and give her the life she deserves.

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heading the e-book way and reading update

It’s been long since I posted a reading update. I had made and list and everything, but I have to start working on sticking to schedules.

Anyway, the autobiography of Helen Keller was too dry for me to pick up everyday and want to read. I then decided to make a book purchase, but felt guilty. The problem was there was no time for book reading except at night right before dozing off, and my lovely daughter broke my little reading light. And I decided to venture into the e-book zone and see if it’s any good. And was I glad! Instead of wasting time watching random videos on youtube, I found the perfect solution to my no reading issue. I purchased ‘Adultery’ by Paulo Coelho, downloaded the Flipkart e-books app on my tablet.

I don’t recommend this book at all. I skipped through insanely boring paragraphs about Geneva and some historic crap, the ending is just stupid. It has very low moral value and presents the concept of adultery in the positive light. I don’t like it when authors or celebrities or anyone emphasise on ‘love’ so much that they tend to not bother about what’s right and wrong. We’re not animals, we’re human beings. Anyway, I didn’t enjoy the way it was written also. It wasn’t all that gripping, and half way through I was just reading it to finish it.

I personally feel our lives are too small to always look for ways to get lost, it’s important that we are reminded of our purpose in life which is beyond ‘love’. Anyone who believes in anything more than themselves will know the importance of thinking about others, and living  life that ends with a purpose.

Anyway I guess all of us expect different things from books. I just don’t enjoy hypocrisy.

Have you read this book?

BTW i just bought my next e-book, a rather impulsive purchase keeping in mind I should be working on my submissions. And it’s:

What have you been reading?